It shouldn't make any difference if you have to reflash the EEPROM. I've reloaded Xtreme numerous times on the same DTivo and never had it cause a reboot problem. Have you tried downloading a different image of 2.5Xtreme? The only way you're going to install 2.5Xtreme without flashing the EEPROM is if you restore an image of an Xtremed drive that has already gone past the flashing stage. The 2.5Xtreme image was captured just prior to where it flashes the EEPROM so it's going to do it whether you want to or not. I don't believe Surgeon ever included an option to install Xtreme without flashing the EEPROM.
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